Kink and BDSM

A Kink is a bend or twist in something that is usually perceived as being straight and narrow, and kinky sexual practices – kink –  is used as an umbrella term for any forms of sexuality that go beyond the confines of traditional or “vanilla” sexuality.  This can include but is not limited to:

  • BDSM – the practices of bondage and discipline, dominance and submission, sadism and masochism.
  • Dominant/ submissive relationships
  • Group sex
  • Play partnerships
  • Fantasy and role-playing
  • Voyeurism or exhibitionism

Kink is a healthy expression of sexuality and connection!

Some of the challenges folks may face include:

  • Using kink/ BDSM as a form of therapeutic expression
  • Consent and Negotiation 
  • Boundary setting and boundary erasure 
  • CNC – consensual (ethical) non-consent
  • Abuse in the context of kink and D/s
  • Understanding and setting limits
  • Navigating multiple play partners 
  • Shame, stigma, and pathologization

Safer kink frameworks I use:

  • Safe Sane and Consensual (SSC)
  • Risk Aware Consensual Kink (RACK)
  • Personal Responsibility Informed Consensual Kink (PRICK)

I am able to support individuals and small groups (play partners, families of all types, and similar small gatherings) in counseling sessions by fostering a safer space to share challenges and concerns to support everyone in feeling seen and heard.