I am a kink knowledgeable counselor!
Being involved in the BDSM lifestyle is my strongest credential as a kink knowledgeable counselor. As such I am a member of the Kink Aware Professionals (KAP) Directory, hosted by the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom. Kink and BDSM have the potential to be wonderful, beautiful, and therapeutic tools of expression. The kink and BDSM counseling I offer aims to create a space of education, validation, and resources to live a healthy thriving kinky life!
Some of the topics or challenges I have seen and support kink and BDSM folks with include:
- Coming Out to oneself, partner, or others.
- Using Kink or BDSM as a form of therapeutic expression
- Improving negotiation and communication skills
- Guilt, discomfort or fear related to boundary setting, crossing someone’s boundaries, and boundary erasure
- Identifying and recovering from abuse in the context of kink and D/s
- Understanding and setting limits
- Navigating multiple play partners and relationships.
- Processing and working through experiences of shame, stigma, and pathologization
- Exploring discomfort with ones BDSM identity
- Fear of not being able to find compatible partners
- Gaining insights into ones sexual interests or dynamics that would be satisfying.
- Sharing BDSM community after breakups.
Safer kink and BDSM frameworks I use:
- Safe Sane and Consensual (SSC)
- Risk Aware Consensual Kink (RACK)
- Personal Responsibility Informed Consensual Kink (PRICK)
I provide kink and BDSM counseling to individuals and small groups (play partners, families of all types, and similar constellations). When working with groups it is best for everyone to attend the initial session together as the aim is for us to get to know one another, go over the way I work with folks, and answer any questions you have.
